Dear H&B,
It seems like whenever I get into an argument with my GF, whether it’s something important or something trivial, it generally ends up with me trying to stick with the facts while she seems to base her side on whatever she’s feeling at that second. She’ll admit to saying things but then tell me that’s not what she meant, or switch around incidents to fit her argument. Later, she usually admits she’s done this and says I should understand it, which drives me crazy. Is this typical?
War Head
Dear WH,
You bet it is. This is a big fat generalization, but when the he-said-she-said hits the fan, the male turns into a lawyer and the female into a gigantic, pulsing bag of emotions. Having said that, eyewitnesses are notoriously unreliable, so who’s to say who’s actually more accurate? Assuming men are attorneys, attendant with that are often “slimeball” and “loophole.” For example: “You didn’t say I couldn’t go out drinking after you went to sleep…” Women might opt for the implied defense, such as by claiming, “I didn’t think I had to,” when sometimes one does have to be perfectly clear. Who wins in the court of love? Depends on what award you’re looking for.
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